no bribes at our wedding please

As we finish up the loose ends planning for our big day, I came across an article today…and then another about weddings here in Korea. I thought you may be interested to see how they compare.
The first article I read said that the average Korean man spends roughly $9,000 on a wedding and the woman about $4,000 here. The weddings are mostly package deals where you go to a shop which organizes everything from the rental dress to the decoration of the car to the wedding hall of your choice.

Props to Britton for his photo work….we snagged a photo from a Korean wedding he shot this beaut at a few weeks back. Check him out at his blog. Link

If you chose to leave the traditional wedding hall behind, couples can now rent out 5 star hotels for their wedding, I guess in the past they were reserved for celebrities and the extremely wealthy only. The Family Ritual Standard Act was abolished a few years ago which allows normal people now to have extravagant weddings.  Some of the price breakdowns are this: meals cost about $50-$140 a person, flowers $3,000- $14,000, dress rental, make up and pictures runs about $5,000, candles $200 and a 6 layer cake, $900.

The most aspect expense of getting married, which cracked me up, is moving out of your parents home. It said that 45% expect to pay for their expenses themselves, while the other percentage said that their parents will help them, or pay for all of it…even after they are married! (im glad that marriage teaches responsibility)

A third article states that the cash received as gifts (up to about $40,000) sometimes is actually bribery and embarasses the nation.

When a senior government official decided not to accept cash gifts at his daughter’s wedding in June, the decision was such an oddity that it “made news.” The inclusion of bank account numbers in wedding invitations boils down to a simple statement: “It’s time for us to be repaid for all the money we gave out before.” Prominent families fill up expensive hotel ballrooms with wreaths and spend tens of millions of won on banquets to feed armies of guests and on decorations that will be torn down the next day. Parents send out wedding invitations for their children so that they can collect an amount worthy of their social status. Invitations are even sent to business acquaintances like IOUs.

Recently, one high-ranking government official grabbed headlines by sending no invitations, declining cash gifts and refusing to accept congratulatory wreaths for his child’s wedding. If we are to stop being ridiculed for a tradition that has become so extreme that we see bank accounts in wedding invitations, the leading members of our society must set the example and scale down their weddings.

Well, ladies and gents…some things are similar on our end, we will have a cake, flowers and food… but of course, no bribes on this end. we can’t wait to see you in December 🙂

(the photo was taken by britton inglehart)


  1. I recognize that photo! That's one of Britton's co-teachers from Munwha, Christy, at her wedding at Mudeung Mountain. 🙂 Did you guys go too?


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